the "found in kids room" thread

chemik
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Well...though it is almost 20 years ago that i am no teenager anymore, i still remember situations that were very painful, awkward and embarassing to me: Coming home and being confronted with the fact that my mother had been snooping in my room. As we all should know, a teenager fooling around, laughing his *** off for no reason, then that is no evidence that he / she had smoked pot or dropped lsd (btw: Albert Hofmann has died some days ago, god bless him). A sleepy and drowsy young man could be on codeine or H, but in 99.9999 % certainly is not.

So i am asking the parents among you, what is the reason that lets you break into the privacy of your son or daughter, as this is a big breach of faith...

Could it be that you remember what you have done in your own teenager years, that makes you think your kid could be the same: the last to leave the party or the curious fool to try this and that?

Why do you go into your kids room and rummage bags, clothes, look under beds and behind whatever the furniture is?

And what are the consequences, if you - let's say find three pills that are valium, vicodin or any other hypnotic/narcotic or even an illicit pill? Will you start a big conflict and argue? Or will you stay calm and wait for the right time to start a reasonable discussion?  And as you expect your kid to tell the truth, will you also tell the truth and commit that you were looking in your kids bedroom and clothes for drugs, or will you come up with that old lie "i was cleaning your room, doing your laundry"

I don't want to accuse, i just am curious about your thoughts on this.  

 

 

 


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Submitted by chemik on May 6, 2008 - 5:32am. login or register to post comments

flounder
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What some call "breach of

What some call "breach of faith" others call "good parenting"

Things are much different now than when you were a kid.  Most drugs are cheaper, more potent, and far more readily available today than in years past. 

Kids sell themselves and steal to get high, then get shot or go to jail.

Kids get stretched out on a slab.

Some parents think that since they could handle their drugs so perhaps their kids can use drugs responsibly.  However, many of these parents are naive, they don't realize their brief youthful experimentations weren't much compared to what's out there. 

Different people react differently to drugs, what one person can handle another may not.  There are diphenhydramine abusers.

Some drugs that many people think are safe are, in fact, quite dangerous.  Xtacy is a good example. Prescription drug abuse is another example.



May 6, 2008 - 6:32am login or register to post comments

gcdylan
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Well Chem I am in my 50's

Well Chem I am in my 50's and that is all I did was smoke pot with so many other's and pain pills, though it did not last very long  your 99.9999% source is outright absurd


May 6, 2008 - 7:47am login or register to post comments

gtrplayer
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What gives the kid the right

What gives the kid the right to bring drugs into a parent's household?

If I ever, ever, would have tried that line on my parents, I would still be wearing an ice pack on my jaw (and my parents never spanked any of us). But, just because a kid's room is "his", does not make it "his". Does the kid pay rent? No matter how much whining and boo-hooing any kid does about their parents "breaking into" their room, the fact remains- it is the parents house.

When the kid starts paying rent, then maybe, he or she can start asking for privacy. Until then, live by the parents rules. I truly doubt the teenager had any involvement in the planning of the purchase of the home.

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And what are the consequences, if you - let's say find three pills that are valium, vicodin or any other hypnotic/narcotic or even an illicit pill? Will you start a big conflict and argue? Or will you stay calm and wait for the right time to start a reasonable discussion?  And as you expect your kid to tell the truth, will you also tell the truth and commit that you were looking in your kids bedroom and clothes for drugs, or will you come up with that old lie "i was cleaning your room, doing your laundry"

If I were a parent and this were my child, I would look through every dresser drawer, mattress, whatever else he/she might be hiding things in. If I found anything, I would not wait for a reasonable time. I would call their cell phone, and ask where they were at, and tell them that I needed milk right away to finish supper, and then confront the kid the minute he/she walks in the door. There is no etiquette for making sure your kid stays off drugs. Just as their is no assumption of privacy just because it is the room your parents are letting you live in for free. After I found the first illegal drug in their room, it would be a cold day in Haiti before I quit looking/snooping through their room again.

 

gtrplayer



May 6, 2008 - 8:33am login or register to post comments

Goat
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Flounder had it and gtrpl

Flounder had it and gtrplyer nailed it down.Wink 

I am not a Dr. I just play one on TV.

 

 

 



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